Hey, you. Yeah, you. Nice guy. You’re just trying to be on women’s side! You’re a gentleman. You support cancer research. You realize that statistically, you get paid more than women, so you always pay for dinner! Why are we feminists so angry at you?
It all comes down to a little thing called…
Ok, let’s put this into perspective here. As women, I do have some privileges. If I was male, I would be looked down upon if I wanted to be a stay-at home dad. My masculinity would be constantly questioned… my sexuality more so. If I were a man, I would not be allowed to work at a day care center because it’s considered pedophilia if a male changes a baby girl’s diaper. Women do have some privileges that men don’t, and men have privileges that women don’t. Ever heard of the term “double standard”? Yes, it’s that. That’s EXACTLY what I’m talking about here.
I hate how some feminists think that men can’t be feminists as well… they can. If anything they get attacked MORE than female feminists because some women have the same mentality as you do. What is this sudden hatred toward generally nice men? Not all men are assholes, and I know plenty of men who I adore and respect. They may not all be feminists and agree with me on everything, but they’re generally good guys. I find it twisted and fucked up that a guy will be attacked for holding a door open for someone out of respect and kindness, yet if I do the SAME gesture it’s seen as being what it is… kind and generous. The way I see it, it’s a sign of respect. Yes, you can open the door yourself, but isn’t it also a relief that you don’t have to? I tend to thank people if they hold the door open for me, and I tend to think they’re douchebags if they let the door slam in my face.
So what if a guy supports breast cancer awareness? How does that differ from a lesbian supporting it? Does it make them dirtier because they’re male?
As a feminist, I hate double standards, I hate how BOTH genders are discriminated against. Hate begots hate; violence begots violence. So stop this shit, and actually think for a moment.
This pattern — women can dress like men, but men don’t dress like women — suggests that there is, in fact, something demeaning, ridiculous, or subordinating about presenting oneself to the male gaze. Most men feel stupid, gross, or vulnerable when they do it. This isn’t just about conformity to different gendered expectations. If it were just about difference women would feel equally weird dressing in men’s clothes. Instead, when women adopt masculine ways of dressing and moving, they often feel empowered.
So, when men do femininity they feel ridiculous and when women do masculinity they feel awesome. This is what gender inequality looks like.
Now I’m wondering why the majority of MRAs aren’t complaining this instead of dismissing rape victims(of any gender) as attention whores.
**Trigger Warning** Rape apologists, rape naysayers, rape deniers
Mr. What About The Men
“The real problem here is all these false rape accusations that are destroying our society! 90 million men are falsely accused of rape every second! A woman just has to sort of mumble a word starting with ‘r’ and a man instantly gets a life sentence! There are no instances on record of a woman actually being raped!”
Ms. Tough Girl
“If women would learn martial arts—70-year-olds and women with disabilities can do this if they put their minds to it, darnit—and carry weapons everywhere, no one would ever get raped! All you have to do is be ready to threaten your own friends and lovers with lethal force at any moment, any anyone who can’t do that must be weak or something.”
Mr. Model Victims Only Please
“The victim was no angel herself. If you look at her record, she’s been arrested several times, she’s a single mother, and she’s living on welfare. So it’s not like she was some innocent little virgin beforehand. None of this makes it right, but I’m just saying, let’s not overreact like a good woman got ruined.”
Ms. Fashion Police
“Did you hear what she was wearing? I’m sorry but that’s just not common sense. If you go out looking like a piece of meat, you have to expect you’ll get treated like a piece of meat.”
Mr. I’m Not Blaming Her But It’s Her Fault
“Rape is never the victim’s fault, of course. But I just want people to admit that she has some responsibility. That she maybe played a part in it. That in an alternate universe where she’d done things differently and she lived in a steel Battlemech wearing a chastity belt, she wouldn’t have gotten raped, and she did make the choice to not use a Battlemech. I just need people to acknowledge that.”
Ms. Couples Therapy
“I dunno, seems to me like they both made mistakes. Maybe he just wasn’t reading her signals, or maybe she wasn’t communicating clearly to him. A lot can get caught up in an emotional moment like that and I bet they both feel really bad right now.”
Mr. Offensive And/Or Baffling Metaphor
“Look, if you walk down a dark alley with a wallet stuffed full of money, sure it’s still a crime when you get mugged, but what if the mugger is just trying to feed his family because he was laid off by an evil solicitor and the ghost showed him a lone crutch leaning in the corner?”
“If you put the pieces together, her story just doesn’t wash. She claims that he ripped her pants off, but her pants have a button fly. Ha! And she waited a whole forty minutes after the supposed rape to call the police—who would do that?”
“lol bitch deserved it loooollll”
Ms. You Don’t Just Get To Decide Whether You Consent
“She was seen earlier in the night drinking with this guy, talking to him, and even making out with him! And then she went up to his apartment! What did she think would happen? No one ever goes to a guy’s apartment unless they’re consenting to every sex act he could possibly want.”
Mr. How Do I Not Rape Someone It Is So Difficult
“I just don’t understand how to tell if someone is ‘consenting’ or not. What if she secretly decides she doesn’t like it—am I a rapist then? What if she changes her mind midway through? Or afterwards? It’s impossible to know what women want, so how am I supposed to know if they want to have sex with me or not?”
Ms. Traditional Values
“You know, back when women dressed modestly and simply didn’t go out drinking with strangers or going home with people they’d just met, this sort of thing didn’t happen.”
Mr. This Wouldn’t Happen If Women Would Just Fuck Me Already
“This sort of thing is inevitable when women constantly act as gatekeepers and doom beta males to a life of frustration and loneliness. Of course rape is horrible, but the pent-up rage felt by men cast aside just because they weren’t billionaire underwear models has to express itself somehow.”
Ms. Avoid The R-Word
“Wow, that is just not cool. Having sex under those circumstances—I mean, treating a girl like that—you know, being inappropriate with her—is a totally insensitive and downright mean thing to do.”
(Source: the Pervocracy)
Aw man, this is a seriously comprehensive list of apologist rhetoric!
Not the first time we’ve posted it but yeah that’s basically every one of em.
I agree completely, though I think it needs to be mentioned that men can be raped too. Rape is not always about sexism, through it frequently is.
I care about every boy that was ever called a fag or a pussy or a sissy for being emotional, or sensitive, or unathletic, or just not manly enough. I care about the boys who are afraid they’ll lose their manhood if they admit they like boys that way. I care a whole fuckload about the ones, gay and straight and other, who commit suicide about it.”
A worthwhile speech lies behind this link.
The comments section is pretty full of poison, though.
This is fucking awesome. And keep in mind, I’m a feminist.